Your Dating Relationship - Part 3
The first step is to communicate about the problems. In a supportive and loving conversation, both partners should be free to express how they feel and what impact the decrease in frequency is having on their relationship. It's very important to create a climate of mutual concern and respect, and to avoid finger pointing or blaming each other for these problems.
The second step may be to schedule a medical exam to rule out- or find solutions for- any medical issues which might be contributing to low libido, such as hormonal changes, medications, or physical illnesses and ailments.
The third step would be to find a place of common agreement on sexual frequency within the relationship. Each partner should recognize that, sometimes, intimacy is needed for the relationship as a whole, not just for the individual needs of each member of the couple. Think about what is best for the relationship, not just what one member would desire or prefer.
Finally, find ways to strengthen the relationship outside of the bedroom. Talk about dreams, hopes, and desires. Make plans for the future. Show affection freely, even when it may not lead to sexual intercourse. In essence, demonstrate love and caring for each other more of the time.
When both partners feel safe, nurtured, and cared for, medical conditions have been addressed, and there is ongoing conversation and mutual respect, it's likely that, over time, romatic interest will return, and the relationship will be stronger for having survived this experience.
The second step may be to schedule a medical exam to rule out- or find solutions for- any medical issues which might be contributing to low libido, such as hormonal changes, medications, or physical illnesses and ailments.
The third step would be to find a place of common agreement on sexual frequency within the relationship. Each partner should recognize that, sometimes, intimacy is needed for the relationship as a whole, not just for the individual needs of each member of the couple. Think about what is best for the relationship, not just what one member would desire or prefer.
Finally, find ways to strengthen the relationship outside of the bedroom. Talk about dreams, hopes, and desires. Make plans for the future. Show affection freely, even when it may not lead to sexual intercourse. In essence, demonstrate love and caring for each other more of the time.
When both partners feel safe, nurtured, and cared for, medical conditions have been addressed, and there is ongoing conversation and mutual respect, it's likely that, over time, romatic interest will return, and the relationship will be stronger for having survived this experience.